…has to drive her infant around at 2 in the morning because being in a moving car is the only way he will go back to sleep.
…sometimes cooks three separate meals for dinner because her picky eater will only have pizza – but the crust has to be right, it can’t be too cheesy, the pepperoni better not be the spicy kind and there can’t be too much sauce. Oh and definitely not the sauce that is too sweet or has any green stuff in it.
…on some days actually falls asleep standing in the shower.
…most likely has read “Goodnight Moon” to her child at least 6, 947 times and still does the funny voices.
…gave up grown-up music in the car for about ten years in favor of Kidz Bop, Disney, and Pokemon CDs.
…can fix her child’s toys or computer, put together a shelving unit, replace worn appliance parts, mow the lawn, and still remove splinters with the precision of a surgeon.
…wants so badly to fix everything for her children but knows she must stand by and let them have the experience on their own.
…will be there to help pick up the pieces when they don’t quite get it right the first time, and encourage them to try again.
…always makes sure the house is never completely out of any grocery item, and the lunchboxes and coffee are always ready in the morning, without exception.
…simply doesn’t have time to be sick. Ever.
…has to endure the glares of people that think she simply doesn’t spank her special needs child enough when he’s having sensory meltdowns in public.
…eats the burnt toast so everyone else can enjoy their breakfast and nothing has to be wasted.
…sometimes cries when no one’s looking.
…knows that her children are here to teach her, too.
…gets up every single day and does what needs to be done no matter what kind of mood she’s in.
…accepts that right now it’s okay that her child with Autism is 10 and still needs help showering, using the bathroom, dressing, and brushing his teeth. She performs these tasks with grace.
…celebrates every success, large or small, and takes nothing for granted.
…knows that her children love her, but sometimes wishes they would show it a little more. However, she doesn’t require it to keep her heart open.
…goes to bat for her children, unconditionally, because their success is non-negotiable.
…always encourages her children to be their unique and authentic self.
…realized early on that there’s no turning back – this is a lifetime job and it isn’t for weenies.
…still knows how to dance with confidence, even if it’s in her living room. On the coffee table.
…learned long ago that the workload will never be “even” or “fair,” and that’s okay.
…considers the simplest pleasures a big deal, because life is precious and all we really have is the now.
…knows that her children chose her before coming to this crazy, adventurous place, and she is grateful.
…remembers that shining her light and being her true self is the greatest gift she can give to her children, for it inspires them to do the same.
…simply does her best, because there is no manual for this gig!
I salute you. All of you. Single moms, married moms, “unplanned” moms, adoptive moms, older moms, teenage moms, special needs moms…we have a bond – a circle – that is unbreakable. You are all amazing – don’t wait for others to honor you. Celebrate and honor yourself and the successes that YOU create.
Happy Mother’s Day!
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