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Autism is Not a Boys’ Club

autism boys club

In Georgia, the statistics are cited as 1 in 39 boys and 1 in 181 girls have been diagnosed with autism. It is said boys are five times more likely to be autistic than girls. These numbers are in my Autism Training for Emergency Responders class.

After my daughter received an autism diagnosis at age 17, I started digging deeper and realizing that it’s not necessarily the case that less females are autistic, but that many are flying under the radar altogether.

Autistic girls are often regarded as “eccentric” or “quirky,” may be misdiagnosed, or only partially diagnosed. There are so many stories of women finally received an autism or Asperger’s diagnosis in their 30s and 40s, and how relieved they are to find they’re not “defective” after all.

It Hit Home for Us

For my daughter, it truly put the last piece of the puzzle together for us. Things she struggled with unexplainably, such as anxieties and fears, strange rituals, and extreme resistance to change, now made sense. My daughter writes,

“My diagnosis was like a lifeline. It made me feel not alone, and it made me see that I wasn’t broken. For a lot of my life I felt like an alien, I felt like I didn’t really belong anywhere. Knowing I am autistic helped me stop beating myself up over everyday behaviors and I began to accept myself – quirks and all.”

Much of the early research into autism was based on data from boys. When Hans Asperger first defined autistic psychopathy in 1944, it referred only to boys; he believed no women or girls were affected by the condition. Even the current DSM questionnaires are geared toward standard autistic behaviors in boys.

Girls are more likely to engage in “social camouflage” behaviors – like hanging out in groups, mimicking facial expressions, or showing signs of empathy – that mask many of the classic “male” signs of autism. Repetitive or obsessive acts, like collecting things or having intense interests, are seen more as unique quirks than as anti-social behaviors. They may even be quickly labeled as OCD or Anxiety, rather than seeing autism as a root cause.

Clinically Speaking…

Does it make sense that autism presents so differently in females? Think about it. Gender roles aside, the diagnostic criteria for autism is problematic. According to Scientific American, it’s based solely on data acquired from studies of boys.

Those in the medical field recognize that a heart attack presents very differently in women. Women can experience a heart attack without any chest pain or pressure; instead they may experience:

  • Shortness of breath
  • Pressure or pain in the lower chest or upper abdomen
  • Dizziness, lightheadedness or fainting
  • Upper back pressure
  • Extreme fatigue

Why is it so questionable to have something as significant as autism spectrum disorder also present differently?

Resource Gaps Galore

The absence of resources for my adult daughter with autism is due to a trifecta of issues:

  1. Despite autism being a neurological condition, it is still viewed as a mental health issue by many professionals
  2. Females are often misdiagnosed or overlooked altogether
  3. Once a child is no longer in school the resources dry up, creating an unacceptable gap in services for autistic adults

Reducing the gender gap in diagnoses is a start; it is critically important to make sure that females have the same access to resources and care that their male counterparts do.

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I’m an Autistic Adult… and I’m in Purgatory

far from heavenI’m 18. I graduated high school last July. I’m “high functioning” enough to be able to take care of my brother and myself when my mom is on night shift on the ambulance. I can dress myself (although not according to society’s “fashion” standards), I keep up with hygiene, sleep and wake on a self-imposed schedule, participate in online communities, cook for myself, help out around the house, and manage my own bank account. No, I haven’t learned how to drive yet. No, I haven’t applied for college. No, I don’t yet have a job but I’m looking for one. It really has to be something quiet and not too overwhelming, though, because there are currently no resources or tools for me to learn how to manage all the challenges I now face in the adult world.

Autism awareness and diagnoses have risen dramatically… for young children. In elementary school my brother had access to all sorts of special accommodations and therapies. Unfortunately, being a girl, I actually didn’t receive a diagnosis until I was 17, because autism presents very differently in girls.

From infancy throughout the schooling years, interventions are readily available. But what happens when you turn 18? Where are the resources? Who teaches us how to interview for jobs? Buy a car without getting ripped off? Balance a checkbook? Pick the right auto insurance? Do taxes? Grocery shop and plan meals? Go on a date? Figure out the best cell phone plan? Find friends?

Society seems to think one magically “grows out of autism” once they reach adulthood, especially if you’re considered “high functioning.” My symptoms are seen as “not really severe” so I don’t qualify for any kind of adult support…

… yet I’m not entirely sure how qualified and ready I am to “adult” right now. Of course my mom works with me on some of these things, I don’t want to make it sound like she’s not parenting me and teaching me about life. But being a young adult with autism, trying to figure out the next steps to life presents with far more struggles than simple social skills deficits.

What is “High Functioning Autism?”

According to LoveToKnow.com, the term high functioning autism, or HFA, is used to describe individuals who meet the criteria for a diagnosis of autism, yet show no cognitive delays, and are able to speak, read, and write, as well as have IQ scores of average or above. Those with HFA do suffer difficulties in communication, language, and social interaction typical of autism, as well as repetitive behaviors and narrow interests associated with the disorder. Abstract language concepts, such as irony and humor may well be beyond the comprehension of adults with high functioning autism.

While with the right support we can manage independent and successful careers, marriages, and social lives, it can still be difficult to blend into the mainstream world. Crowds, even small ones, can activate sensory overload for me and make me shut down. Fluorescent lights, smells, or certain combinations of sounds make my nervous system crawl with pain and discomfort. I have extreme anxiety dealing with the public.

Social awkwardness and communication issues can make me highly misunderstood and even considered rude. Inability to maintain eye contact during conversation can cost a job interview or friendship, as it is often misinterpreted as dishonest or lacking interest. Maybe I pass an interview and secure a decent job, but the challenges don’t stop there. Workplace camaraderie is terra incognita for many high functioning autistic adults. Small talk and sarcastic humor go over my head, and I’ve been known to not have a filter when it comes to appropriate thoughts to verbalize in conversation. Don’t even get me started on not understanding body language or non-verbal cues and facial expressions.

I’ve been accused of being odd, serious, quiet and aloof, when really I’m severely over-analyzing a simple response to “How are you?”

Being high functioning, I often feel that even the autism community discounts my struggles, as my deficits are compared to the hardships faced by the profoundly disabled. So I feel isolated from mainstream society, yet have trouble finding resources for my issues. Less severe symptoms mean I am denied applications for medical and psychological assistance.

I applaud all the awareness and resources put forth in general when it comes to autism, but there is a long road ahead of us still.

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For tips on recognizing adults with autism on the scene of a crime, fire, medical call or disaster, check out this article, Trix Are for Kids, Autism is Not (Only)!