When my son is in his room either playing, building or watching role playing games on his laptop, I will sometimes hear frustrated screams and banging against the keyboard from behind his door. Fearing the thought of having to purchase another laptop (yes – it’s happened!) coupled with not wanting my child to dwell in stressful emotions I will usually run in and see what is causing the outbursts. It’s always the same issue: the computer is lagging!
What is the first thing I ask him when this happens? “Did you reboot?”
99% of the time a simple reboot fixes the issue he’s experiencing.
That got me thinking… in what way is my life “lagging” right now? (oh let me count the ways!)
Do I really want another list of resolutions to meet? Truth be told, all my resolutions have been on a list throughout all of 2012; some even longer! Guess what? Many weren’t accomplished. Do I honestly think that the changing of a calendar is going to make these resolutions and goals magically manifest? Really?
“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.” Albert Einstein
“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Albert Einstein
I don’t need “resolutions”. I know what I want to achieve. I know how I want to best support my son and daughter on their journeys. But we are all lagging right now. I propose a reboot.
How do you reboot yourself?
Here’s a funny one – The Universe already gave me a head start. I have this giant running “To Do” list that I carry around with me. Which is hilarious because I always think I can accomplish sever or eight days’ worth of tasks in four hours Anyway, aside from the usual day-to-day minutiae I had been taking the same several “big” items and transferring them from list to list for over a year. You know, those things that really need to happen but have no due date? The items that make me feel like I’ve been punched in the gut every time I see them still on my list? Those.
Well, my list is gone. I went to do my usual “transfer” and I can’t find this sacred list anywhere. Message received.
Here are some other things you can do to facilitate a reboot:
Change your routine. Is there a new food or eating style you can incorporate into your diet? What about one vegan meal a week? Eliminating dairy? Adding an exotic fruit or vegetable that you’ve never tried before? How about a new exercise? Try some yoga, take a walk, go to the park. You can listen to a new band on CD, try meditation, or even sit on the other side of the room! Any little change to shake up the hamster wheel feeling. I know how important routines and schedules are to children on the Spectrum, but you can make a game out of it and let them help choose your new adventure.
Take a break from electronics and social media. It’s so important for us to unplug sometimes. We don’t realize it until we actually step away. How about getting out in nature, visiting a museum, or playing some old-school games? Jacks, hopscotch, I-Spy… I’ll bet you forgot how fun they can be.
Sleep it off. Rebooting can sometimes mean we need to oversleep. My Malamutes don’t let me sleep in, but there are occasional days (once every few months) where I just collapse into bed before my children. We are torn in so many different directions these days that sometimes we need to shut down and let our bodies and brains restore balance naturally.
Go for a full system upgrade. Why not? Maybe it’s time for a new career. Maybe you want to start your own business. Or get that new car you’ve had your eye on. What about a big move? Is there a new part of town you’ve thought about moving to? A new city? State? Even country? Nothing says reboot like moving and starting over. Just make sure you’re not moving to run away from your problems – they’ll follow you!
What about you? How can you reboot, leave the lagging behind, and get a fresh perspective on your life? I’d love to hear what’s going on with you – share by commenting below or posting to the SOA Facebook page!
Love this post! I just nominated you for the Liebster award! http://simpleijustdo.com/2013/01/28/liebster-award/
Thank you so much!